I read an article one day on the topic of being intimate very early when meeting someone new. Here are the two paragraphs that I thought were interesting:

“When infatuated we experience a surge of dopamine that rushes through the brain causing us to feel very good. Norepinephrine flows through the brain stimulating production of adrenaline (pounding heart). Phenylethalimine (found in chocolate) creates a feeling of bliss. Irrational romantic sentiments may be caused by oxytocin, a primary sexual arousal hormone that signals orgasm and feelings of emotional attachment. Together these chemicals sometimes override the brain activity that governs logic.

When infatuated, we are thrilled, but not happy, wanting to trust, yet suspicious. There are lingering, nagging doubts about our “partner in infatuation” and their love for us. We’re miserable when they’re away, almost like we’re not complete unless we’re with them. It’s a rush and it’s intense. It’s difficult to concentrate. And most infatuation relationships have a high degree of sexual charge around them. Somehow being with them is not complete unless in ends in some type of sexual encounter. If love has not had the chance to develop before the sexual encounter and/or the initial chemical flood dries up, new chemicals will be released in the brain, and a chemical-based disillusionment phase may be entered which may cause the people involved to feel compelled to end the relationship.”

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The important thing to remember is that there are new chemicals that are released in the brain if love hasn’t had the chance to grow.

These new chemicals make you want to end this new relationship… Outch.

People have to learn to enjoy the courting… 🙂 Like knights and ladies of the medieval period (without the crusades, diseases and other horrors ). Tantra is about restraint. How about showing some during the falling in love period? This would maybe give a chance for love to blossom.

Now leave Facebook and go out there and talk to one stranger today. 🙂

Love, love, love. To all.

Stéphan