My female counterpart and I are not together anymore and I therefore find myself before the interesting situation of finding who I will continue the process with. This is why I wish to discuss this very first challenge that faces those who understand the extremely important role of tantra in the awakening of Kundalini: finding the right partner. It is important to meditate on this topic.

It is not an easy task to know who would be the best possible partner for this, then to make it possible for you to meet this person, then to try to make the relation start and evolve properly from the beginning, ideally share the same vision of the path, hopefully this partner has dealt with the ghosts of past relations and has the right frame set in the mind, etc, etc. So many elements can make this relation not even start… And on the other hand do we really need loooong lists of requirements for our partner? How well do we know what we really need? Sometimes life can place just the right person on our path without us realizing it…

So many elements can then end the relationship easily! Many people don’t even give themselves the chance to even know the other person well before they reject them. Especially in the spiritual community. People base themselves on their flawed intuition and stop trying as soon as they “feel” things are anything less than perfect… As if people in the first few dates easily see the real person before them and not their fears from past relationships.. Once you know the person could possibly be good, allow yourself the time to know them. Like a month or two. It is also quite important not to jump in bed right away… Rapid intimacy is one of the most important reasons why some beginnings of new relationships never grow into anything significant. Play with fire. Build up the desire. Wait until the beginning of real love starts showing its beautiful face…

For some, finding a new (and the right) partner may come easily. For others, it may be close to impossible. Living in a small village where no one is interested in these ideas for example. Or the problem may be psychological: it may be very hard for some to approach the other gender… Even after the relation has started, there are few relations that last very long. Especially in “developed” countries. (That’s quite a sign of under-development when it comes to what matters most: love!) Some people even go in relationships for the wrong reasons. Wrong reasons, like using reason instead of feelings to choose a partner! Some people consider the advantages of a person instead of considering how this person makes them feel… But sometimes reason can make the right choice and an initial friendship can bloom into love. In the end, there must be love.

I sometimes think I should create a Facebook Group page so the thousands of people in here can actually meet and maybe make beautiful connections. Hey, maybe I should start a spiritual dating web site to help people in the complex process of finding their partner! ;P

All kidding aside, you should place your trust in life for this as for everything else. Once your trust is in place, do something about it! Go to your local yoga or meditation center. Go to spiritual festivals. Meet people! 🙂

I wish you all to be blessed with this divine gift : the right ally in the quest for your total inner revolution.